DeKalb County Life Special for May 11, 2017: I can only hope ‘love conquers all’

I can only hope ‘love conquers all’

By Barry Schrader, Daily Chronicle, May 11, 2017
Marianjoy Hospital therapists work with Kay Schrader (center) to reacquaint her with her lifelong love of music by playing a simple melody on the piano. At left is Lindsay Jansen. a speech pathology student, and at right is speech therapist Erica Zalay. (Barry Schrader photo)
  Two weeks ago, I wrote about my wife Kay’s start on the road to recovery after the debilitating stroke she suffered April 14.
     She has received intensive treatment for all aspects of her condition during her time at Marianjoy Rehabilitation Hospital in Wheaton, and on Wednesday we brought her back to the subacute nursing facility at our Oak Crest DeKalb Area Retirement Center, where we live. The rehab process will be less intensive but will continue indefinitely in hopes of restoring some of her speech and memory. The stroke and accompanying aphasia and apraxia affected the left side of the brain, but did not leave her physically impaired.
     Since Mother’s Day is coming, I have been contemplating all the wonderful things a mother and wife provide. I have told her these things as I sit beside her bed, but should have expressed more appreciation and love over these past 53 years that we have been a couple.
     So I offer this advice to those of you who have a mother or spouse: Show your love and appreciation not just once a year with flowers or a dinner out, but time after time throughout the year. The famous sonnet by Elizabeth Barrett Browning, “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways …,” seems appropriate to share as well.
     The Roman poet Virgil wrote that “Love conquers all,” as well as “Endure the present and watch for better things.” He really had a way with words.
     Enough of this rambling; I hope to keep writing my column, even though not weekly, but my first priority is her rehabilitation and showing her the love and care she so rightfully deserves right now.
• Barry Schrader can be reached via email at or through P.O. Box 851, DeKalb, IL 60115. His past columns are posted on his website at

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